♫ If you leave me now…

Posted on October 4, 2011 by


…You’ll take away the biggest part of me…♫

Oh, those cheesy break-up songs! You know the ones we mean – the kind you sit singing to (badly) whilst looking at that tear-stained photos of your, now ex, beloved.

What do you mean that’s just us?!

But that got us thinking – there are a lot of different themes to break-up songs.

  • Ones that say I’m sorry – “(I want you) back for good”
  • Those that are angry – “I hate you so much right now”
  • Songs of self pity  “She’s out of my life”
  • Those that are self-empowering – “I will survive”

Well, how those  times where the ‘dumpee’ feels incomplete, like ‘a piece of them is missing’?  Or what about looking back in hindsight and wondering if there was anything you could have done differently or better to make things work?

Of course, here at UP, whilst our meandering thoughts can sometimes wander off to thinking up random break up song titles (bet you’ve started doing that now, huh?)  we soon return to the business at hand…


So this got us started thinking about how losing an employee to a competitor  is much like a relationship break-up. Some of the top reasons that cause relationships to break up could equally apply to quitting a job include:

  • It’s no longer fun / challenging
  • You have different values
  • You have different life needs
  • You’re stuck in a rut / can’t progress further
  • You don’t feel secure
  • Your relationship is damaged beyond repair
  • Someone else caught your eye
  • You feel let down or betrayed

Like many dumpees, some employers will just bury their head in the sand and try to ignore what went wrong (“I never loved you anyway!”). Whilst other employers will question what caused their employee to leave (“You don’t bring me flowers anymore”).

Of course the really clever employers out there won’t take the risk of being left “So Lonely” (which is exactly how losing employees with key skills will leave you feeling) and will take steps which avoid a “Tragedy!” and improve employee retention and engagement:

Just like relationship gurus say, the best relationships are those which make sure any issues are identified and tackled early on; before they become deal breakers – “Stop, in the name of love, before you break my heart…Think it oh-oh-ver…..”

So how can you, as an employer, find out if your employees still love their job or “Only  wanna be with you” as an employer?

Simple – by conducting an Employee Survey. This can help you look at everything from perceptions of your company culture and core values, gather views on employment terms, working conditions and general morale.

So, if you want to prevent an employee “D.I.V.O.R.C.E.”, give us a call for a chat about how we can help because we know that “Breaking up is hard to do”…or even if you just need a shoulder to cry on.